🌇 Sundowning: Why It Happens, What It Looks Like, and How to Handle It

If the late afternoon brings more than just shadows in your house—if it brings restlessness, confusion, pacing, or frustration—your person with dementia may be experiencing something called sundowning.

You’re not imagining it. You’re not doing anything wrong.
This is real. And it’s one of the most challenging parts of dementia care.

Let’s talk about what it is, why it happens, and what you can actually do to survive it, with your sanity (mostly) intact.

🕒 What is Sundowning?

Sundowning refers to a pattern of increased confusion, agitation, or anxiety that often starts in the late afternoon and lasts into the evening.

Your person might:

• Pace or wander
• Repeat questions
• Become paranoid or accuse you of things
• Try to “go home” even if they’re already there
• Get angry or withdrawn
• It’s often unpredictable, and it can feel like their personality flips around 3 or 4 p.m., just when you’re exhausted yourself.

🔍 Why Does It Happen?

There’s no single answer, but here’s what we know:

• Changes in light can confuse the brain (the shift from day to night is disorienting)
• Sleep disruption or fatigue builds throughout the day
• Overstimulation or unmet needs (like hunger, pain, needing to toilet) can peak late in the day
• Internal body clock changes (circadian rhythm dysregulation) can mess with their natural rhythm

💡 What Can You Do?

Sundowning won’t always go away—but the good news is, you can reduce it with the right strategies. Here are a few that make a real difference:

1. 🌞 Set a calming afternoon routine: Don’t wait for the meltdown—get ahead of it. A walk, a snack, a soft music playlist, dim lights. Think of it like “tucking in” the day before the chaos hits.
2. 🛑 Avoid “triggers” when possible: Too much noise, screen time, clutter, or complicated conversation can add fuel to the fire. Keep it calm and familiar.
3. 🗣️ Don’t correct or argue: If they’re saying they “need to go to work” or “want to go home,” try redirecting instead of explaining. (I cover exactly how in my redirection scripts.)
4. 🧠 Give them a purpose: Folding towels, sorting silverware, or holding a baby doll or comfort item can help refocus their energy.
5. 🌗 Prep your evening space early: Close blinds before sunset. Turn on lamps. Create a sense of “settling in” before the light outside starts to fade.

📥 Want my full list of tips, scripts, and sensory tools?

I created a download called “Surviving Sundowning”—and it’s packed with:

• Easy-to-implement strategies
• My favorite redirection phrases
• Evening activity ideas
• A printable checklist for daily routine prep
• Tools that actually help calm the chaos

Grab your copy of Surviving Sundowning.

💜 Final Thoughts

Sundowning can feel like walking into a storm every night. But you don’t have to weather it alone—and you don’t have to keep guessing.

With the right tools and a little preparation, you can bring more peace to your evenings—and to your person’s brain and body.

And on the hard days? Know this: You are doing an incredible job with an impossible task. Even when it’s 6 pm and the house is upside down—you’ve got this.